You’rewalkingdownthestreetandseeabeautifulwomanwalkingpastyouandyouhavetheurgetoapproachher.Whatisgoingthroughyourmind?Mostlikelyyou’reaskingyourselfquestionslike,“whatifshedoesn’tlikeme?”or“whatifIgetembarrassed?”Therearetwotypesofquestions:empoweringquestions,anddisempoweringquestions.Empoweringquestionscauseyoutotakeactionshipfromchina,anddisempoweringonescausesyoutofreezeup.Thetypesofquestionsyouaskyourselfeffectswhatyouchosetofocusonandthus,howyou’llfeel.Whenyoufocusonwhatcangowrong,yougetapproachanxiety.Butwhenyoufocusonwhatcangorightorwhatyoucanlearnfromthesituationchinalogistics,youwillfeelempowered.Menwhoexpectwomentowanttoengagewiththemaskquestionsthatguidetheirmindtofocusonthedesiredoutcome.Ifyoufocusonwhatyouwantyou’llfeelexcited;ifyoufocusonwhatyoudon’twant,you’llfeelnervous.Thedifferencebetweenamanwhointeractsconfidentlywithwomenonaconsistentbasisandamanwhodoesn’t,comesdowntothedifferenceinthequestionstheyconsistentlyaskthemselves.Ifyouaskdisempoweringquestions(“whatifshedoesn’tlikemeandrejectsmeinfrontofeveryone?”),yourmindwilllookforanswers,evenifitdoesn’tmakerationalsense.Theresponsewillsoundlike,“youmightlookstupidinfrontofeveryone”.Aresponsetoadisempoweringquestionbringsfeelingsofdoubtandlackofconfidence.Butifyouaskempoweringquestions,suchas,“whatifshe’smynextgirlfriend?”,or“whatcanIlearnfromthisregardlessoftheoutcome?”,yourmindwillbegintolookforanswers,suchas“Ican’tmissout!Imustapproachher!”or“Icanusethisasareferenceexperiencetoimprovemyconfidencewithwomen,”yourmindwillrespondwiththoughtsandemotionsthatwillmakeyoutakeaction.Ratherthanaskingdisempoweringquestions,begintobecomeawareofwheneveryounoticeyourselfaskingdisempoweringquestionsandinexchangeaskempoweringquestion.Soifyouhearyourselfaskingyourself,“whatifshe’salreadytaken?”,stopandinterruptthepatternbyaskingyourself,“whatifshedoesn’thaveaboyfriendandshelikesme?”orsomethingalongthoselines.Thefeelingofmissingoutonyournextgirlfriendorpartnerwillcauseyoutotakeaction.Anytimeyoufeelsomedoubtoruncertainty,becomeawareofthequestionsyouhavetoanswertoelicitthatkindofemotionalresponse.Youcanaskyourself,“WhatwouldIhavetoaskmyselftofeelafraidofgoingforthekiss?”Ifyouareawareenoughyou’llnoticeyou’reaskingyourselfdisempoweringquestionssuchas“whatifsherejectsme?”Sotakecontrolofyourmindandbegintoaskyourselfempoweringquestionssothatyoucanexpectmoreoutoflifeandincreaseyourconfidencewithtalkingtowomen!