Alotofusdreadaging,butsome-like34-year-oldactressReeseWitherspoon-areembracingit. AsthecovergirlforGlamourmagazine&39;sJanuary2011issue,Witherspoonneostratagelplusspokeopenlyabouthowshefeelsmuchsexierasshegetsolder. Shetoldthemagazine,"Iwasalways,asayoungeractress,veryconsciousofnotwantingtoactsexy.Ididn’tseemyselflikethat.ButIthinkasawoman,yougetolder,youfeelmoreconfidentinyoursexuality.You’renotasintimidatedbyit,notasembarrassedbyit.Sexualityandfemininityisanaccumulationofageandwisdomandcomfortinyourownskin.Ifeelbetter-somuchbetternowthanIeverdidinmytwenties.Iamcalmer;IknowwhoIam.Andasaresult,Ifeelmuchsexier." Sohowcanyou,too,feelsexierasyougetolder? PsychotherapistDr.JennBerman,thehostofthe"LoveandSexShowwithDr.Jenn,"discussedthistopicon"TheEarlyShowonSaturdayMorning,"andhowwomentodaycanembracetheirageanduseittotheiradvantage. "The20sareatimethat&39;sidealized,"shesaid."Ithinkitissuchatimewomenarestrugglingtofindtheiridentityandfigureoutwhotheyareandestablishthemselvesintheircareersbutthe30stendtobearealtimeofsecurityforthatveryreasonbecausewehaveamuchbettersensewhohaveweareandthatissexy." "EarlyShow"co-anchorRebeccaJarvisnoted,"WithReeseWitherspoon,ofcourse,she&39;sgonethroughanumberofchanges.…She&39;shadtwobabies,beenthroughdivorce.Howsignificantaretheselifestagesandgoingthroughdifferentpersonaldevelopmentstofeelingsexy?" "They&39;resoimportant,"Bermansaid."Andthoselifeexperiencestendtomakeusmoresexy.Youknow,onethingthat&39;simportanttokeepinmindifyoudon&39;tstartoutfeelingconfidentandsexy,youfakeituntilyoumakeit.Thebehaviors-behavingasifyoufeelsexyandbehavingasifyoufeelconfident-leadswomentofeelconfident." Jarvisagreed,sayingmorewomeninHollywood-fromDianeKeatontoDemiMoore-havebeenembracingtheirsexyside.Sheadded,"Doyouthinkoursenseofageischanginginthiscountry?Doyouthinkwe&39;retakinganewapproachtoaging?" Bermanresponded,"Iabsolutelydo.Womenévénementprotourismelikethathaverevolutionizedthewaywethinkaboutaging.Andit&39;sgiventherestofussomehope,eventhoughtheyhavetheadvantagesofplasticsurgeryandmake-upartistsandallofthat,whenweseesomeoneourageorolderlookinggreat,itcanbereallyinspiring." Jarvissaid,"Theydohavetheadvantages,asyouputit,ofplasticsurgeryandBotoxandalltheinjectionsandthingslikethat.Whenitcomestofeelingsexyforyourpartnerandgrowingolderwiththatpartner,howdoyouthinkitisimportanttokeepthesparkaliveandhowcanwedothat?" Bermanadvised,"Makeapointtomakeyahooseotimeforoneanother,turnofftheTV,theBlackBerry…turnoffyourcomputer,haveface-to-facetimewitheachother.Andtakecareofyourself,makesureyouareeatinghealthy,listeningtoyourbody,exercisinganddressinginawaythatmakesyoufeelgoodandalsohavesomesex,evenifyoudon&39;tfeellikeit.Sometimes,havingsexcanmakeyoufeelsexyand,also,sexbegetssex,themoreyouhave,themoreyouwant." Sheaddedcommunicationwithyourpartnerisoneofthekeystofeelingsexy. "Themorecommunicationyouhave,themoreconnectedandthemoreintimateyoufeel,themoreconfidentyou&39;relikelytofeel,whichmakesyoufilemoresexy,"shesaid. Asformen,Bermansaid,theyhavetheadvantagewhenitcomestoage. "Traditionally,theirsenseofsexinessandself-esteemtendstocomefrompowerandearningpotential,whichtendstoriseoverthelifespan,"shesaid."They&39;vealsobeengivenpermissionmoretohaveafewwrinklesandgetgraywhereaswomentraditionallyhavenot."
